Communication is Key
C O M M U N I C A T I O N.
The key to every friendship and every relationship with everywhere, everyone, and everything.
Old bonds and links with each other is something star beings have tons of. We all know someone who has an uncanny attraction and or instant interest of someone else. The problem is we have old scars and baggage from one another and sometimes we just don't play nice, we will say things we don't mean. Or maybe we do mean them, and we shouldn't say them.
"If you can't say something nice, don't say it at all". Mothers and fathers everywhere trying to teach their children not to put the foot in the mouth, but sometimes we are so fed up with trash and crap, we will put our feet wholeheartedly right in our mouths.
How to keep ourselves from getting fed up:
You have to take breaks. You should schedule relationship meetings every week with your spouse or partner. This way you can talk about ongoing issues long before your foot goes in your mouth. Don't argue the points. Talk them out softly with one another. There is stress every day, you work, they work, or you stay home, you get in a rut, they get in one and before long the rat race has us yelling at one another. Your partner or best friend is always going to be the number one person to say the most hurtful things to you, well other than your parents of course, and your children.
You can have just the two of us gaming night. There is this wonderful game called "hematite chess" in which two plays make a rope circle, and place hematite pieces in the circle and try and avoid them coming together. Hematite is a magnetic stone, and it also helps to wear and hold it, as it helps people "magnetize" for one another as well. It is a game of fun and tragedy, because the pieces will begin to slide together through no fault of your own.
You can have "take a stroll" night. Turn off the phones, and just pick a night to walk around your neighborhood if safe to do so. Stroll arm and arm or hold hands. Walk into town. Go get a burger and a shake. Pretend it's the 1950's again. Go to a thrift store and get a memory from the trip. Take pictures together. Go to a field, strike a pose.
If you can't stroll - take a car ride. Rent something or get an RV and rent it for a good weekend away. Pick a short trip from your home, get some food to cook out with, reconnect. Turn off the phones. See nature together.
When you have said something "stupid" and you can't just take it back:
There is no real good way to apologize for something heated you said.
The best way is to start by writing out a letter to them. Less chance of yelling and saying more things you meant. This is all about rejection and fear. The type of anger we feel when we're boiling for a fight with someone because we feel like we're missing the mark, or they are also and we take it out on them.
If the argument is stated around "You You You" Like "You do this all the time." or "You just don't take your time" or "you rush into something" or "you you you" the blame is not so much with the other person, but it's with your impatience with the person and they do things their own way. Perhaps you feel everyone should do things like you, and things would be better. That is manipulation and ego with a need to control and make everyone rigid with how you work. Not everyone should do things your way. Why does it matter how one does work as long as one does it well and one does it on time?
This a character flaw on your part because perhaps you feel like you should be done in half the time, or you won't get done by the time limit, and truth be told you don't want to work like that if at all. This is your fear of being inadequate in some manner, or fear of doing this work period. You want to be doing something else. For instance, retail, hanging up clothing, managing a store. Most people do not enjoy doing this work and for someone to come along that does, you would have problems with the way they worked or did the work.
It also speaks of an inconsistency of someone who is bored with their own life. The problem is not with them, it's with you. You can stop this by recognizing what part of your life bores you so much you are taking out things on others. Maybe it's the relationship. Maybe it's a health concern. Maybe it's just stress overload.
Ascension gives us the tools to manage our caseloads. Multiple spiritual roads, cultures and way of being, speaking and meditating to meditate the stress away. Like for instance if you feel stressed you can say "Name Bo Rah Lah mein Ro" as a chant, it means I recognize my issues and I want to melt them away" Meditate and repeat. When you want the melt to happen say "Name Bo Rah, Lah mein No". You will become more aware of the gifts you can give yourself, the more you practice "Name Bin Nah". Course Success. Long ago the ancients of all cultures spoke this course language and it helped them put the pieces back together of their lives due to spirit trauma in various existences.
This is not about getting extra money to live or all of the wish or amazon catalog, but a modest living in a simpler world.
"La' Chan Ni Tai" To all.
