Letting Go and Saying Goodbye
In Repurposing
The whole purpose of the purpose blog is to get comfortable with what some consider to be uncomfortable things.
Like letting go of a bad friendship or bad relationship or terminating a bad relationship habit with your parents who aren't supportive and never have been.
You did not sign up for this trauma, so there is no need for you to feel it over and over.
There are those people in the world who do justify the way someone is treated with, "It's their lesson". No, it's not their lesson, it's yours.
The new year is one perfect time for you to say, "New year who dis?" like the gif says. Decide who gets to stay in your life and who should depart. Send them an email, and just be really short and to the point. Don't rehash old arguments or the way you used to feel about them or things you never got to realize between the two of you. Just be like " X name, it's a new year, I've decided that Blank isn't going to keep happening. I wish you a nice existence but do not call me or email me or text me anymore."
This is considered the "extreme approach". Do not add things like "Please, thank you, don't sound threatening, or violent" Don't rehash arguments or rephrase them or even get things off your chest about him or her or them.
I have dropped from people's lives on fb and other media just by unfollowing them or blocking them even if I don't deal with them. It's healthy and sane to be about a friend cut as they are called. You don't owe any spirit link a damn thing. Just because you came here with these links attached don't mean they will stay attached. Maybe they have a spirit problem you don't care for.
For instance, I have someone I have been attached too for a long time. Person has a spirit issue he won't address, he ignores me, he treats me poorly, he gets violent. That's my trigger, I am done after it gets violent. He responds with bad behavior, like pooping on himself and being a stinky rebel. This isn't my job to clean up after a stinky kid that poops his pants. I don't have kids and I don't change their underpants, I sure as hell am not doing it with an adult. Then he acts like I am the one with the problem. I am "intolerant" .... yes, I am the one to blame. This also somehow makes me a whore. Yep, me.
So, if this was you, what would you do? You have to deal with this issue in a sane, mature fashion. Just because we have known each other forever and so on does not mean this is natural, sane behavior. It really can be a learning lesson.
