When it's not worth anymore fighting
Posted by Luci Smith 🌛🌝🌜 on January 1, 2024 at 2:16am
Edit: Most people believe if you are not fighting in your relationships or friendships or whatever, then you don't care. No, you are not supposed to argue over your feelings. You are not supposed to argue period over how you belong or don't too or with or around or by one another. Fighting sates the ego, either yours, or the ego of the couple together.
Fighting leads to angry words, and views. You are supposed to speak calmly and agree to let each say their piece if something comes up and then try and find a common ground with one another or apart.
There will come times in your life when you will just think and say -- its not worth fighting over.
This can be a bad relationship, friendship, job, parenting with kids or your parents.
We, although strong; were not made to always carry the torch. The torch is broken. Let the torch go.
Carry a bouquet of flowers instead and let them be your flowers.
People accuse people who don't want to fight it out, as a way to say they have lost interest. People are so caught up in what the harry's are doing three streets over, or how to compete with their own parents and or grandparents, that they ruin it.
You are supposed to go at your own pace, with one another. If you can't, or they aren't there to focus, go yourself. If they are still whining about "you don't care about me, you could have stayed and we worked it out" 3 years later, please know they are not in a mature relationship or friendship, are afraid to love and submerse themselves in what they require of you, and not your fault. WE fall into a setup when we become overly metaphysical community - twin flame communities are a prime example. Technically, there is no such thing as twinflames, old flames, soul flames, trendy term for it. It is preying and the male and female or what not will prey until they feel sated. When sated, they will run or leave, or break it off, unless they do not feel like being used.
Now I am sure there are some powerful knock down drag it out moments and moments of wild fit intimacy that blow your mind, there are connections but they are brief little "hey don't we know each other moments" where someone is like yes, and then not ready to commit in what they think they have to commit too in order to feel good with that person by their side. WE all have multiple shine on partners that we know. Fate wants us to be happy, but we live in a society where energy is blocked, taken from, shut down, and never built up, sheltered and secured and welcomed 24/7. You are just not going to find this unless both are you are after 60, mature as hell and not trying to run around and please everyone else but you.
You do not have to fight in order to secure a friendship or relationship with someone. You should not fight, yell or abuse one another at all. They want to push you into a corner where they brow beat you with their feelings and do not hear equal siding on your own feelings. IT's Them, not you time. It's your problem, but its their needs. How dare we not bend to their will and meet their needs. Why are these needs important? Because if we learn to meet their needs, they will learn to weedle us to their liking. By being more "caring", they are being more passive aggressive and trying to run the relationship. They don't want a relationship, they want a baby sitter or a bank account or a sexual pleasure slave.
Relationship runners needing a more submissive partner, please take a sheet of paper and write down 5 things you wish they were more attentive towards. Ask yourself, "do I meet these needs for myself? Am I not enough?"
Person being requested about:
Write down five ways you are attentive to those needs, and five things you wish they were more attentive too and ask yourself the same question as above.
If we recognize how we ourselves are already seeing to these needs for ourselves, ask yourselves why others need to do it for you as well! Why is this so important?!
Notice your answers will be egotistical and self centered, slap full of ego and insecurity. WHY should you have to attend yourself in the way you need from another? Because we are also meant to please ourselves, in these ways so others don't have too.
Ask yourself "Am I behaving in an immature way"? How can you stop placing blame on others and put it back on yourself? Seeing what is wrong with yourself, you will never want someone else to worship you ever again.
